As healers, we tend rate success of a healing intervention by the shift that has taken place. And feel that we have failed somehow at times when this does not occur.
But true healing is very simple and the outcomes that we attach to can often be destructive for the client.
More and more I have come to realise that healing means holding space. It’s really that simple. Holding space for the individual to experience their process and themselves without expectation of an outcome. There is no failure, there is only experience. And without ‘failure’ nothing has ever been learnt. “We are all just walking each other home” – Ram Dass.
To truly hold space, allows us to drop deeply into ourselves. The answers are always within us, and as healers we must steer away from trying to provide answers or solutions.
We often see the potential in people and try to push them to realise this. And it is not that the potential is not there, but the individual may not realise this within this lifetime, this is not failure but simply learning. We are all Divine beings remembering who we are, the process of remembering can be painful as we let go of our attachments including the attachement to who we believe ourselves to be.
When we hold space, we allow others to embrace the authentic experience of their process / dis-ease with full integrity. There is no greater point to this existence than to experience ourselves fully. Healing may not look the way we had envisioned it, but allowing the freedom to safely experience the self and creating the space for that allows us to understand it is safe to do so, and necessary.
Healers are not here to heal you. You are here to heal you. No one else can do it for you.
And whilst healers can assist in reflecting the self back to us, to get involved in the outcome is not going to assist clients who may need to remain in extended periods of process until the lesson is learnt and the healing comes, even if that takes a lifetime.
Holding a space of love for the process to unfold is the true gift of the healer.
Image “Symbiosis” by Autumn Skye Morrison